Phenomenal Woman

Yes. It’s been well over a year since the gift of Dr. Maya Angelou has shifted from this world. Yet and still, I don’t wish to capture the life, substance, vibrancy and grace that is she, with words. Her legacy and story is higher than my current reach. Not in hierarchy, but in life. She LIVED a full life and did it her way. I salute and give a big hug in Spirit to this legend.


“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”

I LOVE the humility in this quote.

I have moments when I ponder on some of my greatest life lessons. I find it fascinating at times when I recognize a cohesive pattern in my teachers. Most times, we’ve never met. This has no hindrance on the impact. While creating a disciplined lifestyle of making every moment an experience, I learned this great lesson. The greatest portion of embracing a healthy way of living on your terms and catching those experiences; is remembering to Love. What you do. Where you are. Whom you’re with. How you move. The way you speak. The sparkle in your eye. The disproportion of your body. The taste of your cooking. Your choices! One lesson we can learn from Dr. Angelou is do it! What ever it is, do it with your whole heart!


The Experience: Dominican Republic (Part 1)

I now know what it’s like to have God kiss my feet through the ocean.

In the beginning of May, I spent a week in Puerto Plata, DR. I exhausted my personal time line for sun and sand, and let’s just say not a thing, nor a being was stopping me from enjoying the experience that was in store for me.

The weather was pure pleasure. I received five star service from the time my driver picked me up, until the time he drove me back for my wpid-20150504_141122.jpgdeparture. My purpose for this vacation was rest and relaxation. I conquered this quest masterfully. Although I awoke every morning at 6:30am fully rested, regardless of how late I stayed up the night before. By 10:30am on most days I had showered, meditated on the beach, ate a fulling breakfast (sometimes twice) accompanied by fresh pineapple juice and steaming hot coffee, read a few chapters from my chosen book poolside, and gave a pitiful performance of my one woman show titled “Beautiful Bronze Boy: I’m Not Playing Hard To Get…I Am”. Trust me, if you didn’t see the show, you didn’t miss anything. I sucked!

My days blended together. I spent the majority of my time being seduced by the waves in the ocean. My room was a two minute walk to the beach, and I had a great view of it from my balcony. I was in a constant state of “awe” by this beast of a tropical bath. Being from NYC, beaches and beautiful bodies of water aren’t on our list of attractions. So imagine my greed for the attention it gave me. I’d visited plenty of beaches from St. Marteen to Anguilla, but this one in Playa Dorada was especially kind to me. Every time my toes met the sand and ocean combined, I promise you it felt like tickled kisses from God. So pure. So gentle. So loving. So ALIVE. My solo vacation was well worth the peace and tranquility that met me there.

Whatever it is that you desire to EXPERIENCE today. I pray it’s worth missing.

Do It Scared

So I’ve been thinking, and semi bullying myself to follow through with a project that I’ve wanted to produce for a few years now. It highlights an area that speaks to my gifts. I’m a visionary so I see it, literally. However, why do I find myself tripping over the same stumbling block that I built? I’m SCARED!! I said it!  Scared to “fail”, scared that it won’t be “perfect”. I’ve involuntarily been the recipient of some challenging moments that I’ve embraced as an experience. But this thing here is so personal. I WANT it so bad that I’m afraid of it. If this doesn’t make any since to you, it’s okay (I’m really speaking to myself).

I know the acronym for fear and am determined to push through it. I’m going to do this thing! And it’s going to be so damn fabulous! Join me and do whatever your “it” is, scared! Continue your education, take a solo vacation (highly recommended), apologize to whom you’ve wrong, quit the job, confront the parent, cut off the friendship, start the business, take the dance class. Just do it! Do it scared!


The time will never be right. Perfection  is an illusion that we chase only to avoid the responsibility of doing it. Convincing ourselves that we must get “it” right in order to actually perform a task does nothing more than hold us hostage.

~Shantay Alicia


In everything! When you desire change, doing your best should always be the bare minimum. I believe we all have our moments of discouragement, and that sometimes turns into a “panic”. It doesn’t have to. Not if you commit to your best daily. Release the restrictions of perfection, and measure you against yourself. The 100% you dedicate to that “greater” aspect of experiencing life will not always look the same. That’s the bonus, acknowledging that decreases the pressure we put on ourselves. I am wishing you all the LOVE & LIGHT that your mind, body and spirit can handle.

Happy Monday!


Share with someone whom you know needs to be reminded that they have more in themselves to give! ~XO

IG: @ShantayAlicia

Rules of Engagement #1

Don’t pay attention to “them”, no one even knows who “they” are.

Seriously. How many times have you heard yourself say, “oh they said I shouldn’t do this”, or “you know what they say”. Am I only the only with my hand up wanting someone to answer the question of “who are they?”, and how did they get everyone talking? I’ve experienced countless moments when I’ve been on the receiving end of their advice and I’ve given it as well. Unbeknownst to me, that I may have not had of clue of what I was talking about. They have wreaked havoc on my life too many times for me not to be able to identify them. I’m over it. I’m firing them, and those who advocate for them so hard.

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My life is too precious, and too good to allow the folk-law of the theysayers to rain on my parade.

*Note to self* Exercise your vocabulary and pay attention to your language. As you start this week out choose your words carefully and know exactly what it is of what you speak.

I desire to EXPERIENCE this thing called life how I desire, not how they said I’m supposed to.